With the holidays right around the corner, many Illinois families will be making plans on how to celebrate the festivities. For parents who share custody and visitation, termed allocation of parental responsibilities and parenting time under Illinois’ statute, this time of year can bring some challenges. Many of these special events are deeply rooted in religious beliefs, leading to such questions as:
- How do we handle parenting time if we share the same faith?
- What if we come from different religious backgrounds?
- Do we need to go to court if we disagree on parenting time?
The answers to these questions will depend upon your unique circumstances, but an understanding of the laws can help co-parents frame the relevant issues. You should work with a Chicago visitation and parenting time lawyer to advise you on the specifics, but here are some tips to get you through the religious holidays.
Always Keep the Child’s Best Interests in Mind:
The first and most important consideration for all issues regarding children, including parenting time around the holidays, is what arrangement best serves their interests. Factors include their developmental and emotional needs, as well as any course of conduct each parent has established over time.
Agreements Regarding Parenting Time Around the Holidays:
You do not necessarily need to request a judge to decide how your child spends time with parents during the holiday season. Co-parents are encouraged to come up with an agreement on whatever arrangement suits everyone, though it must still comply with the child’s best interest’s standard.
Be Flexible: Because an agreement is preferred over having a court determine parenting time around the holidays, it is important to realize that negotiating an arrangement is a give and take. If you are willing to make certain concessions this year, remember that you will alternate. Giving up Hanukkah or Christmas means you can have extra time to prepare for next year’s celebrations.
Consider the Child’s Wishes: If appropriate based upon your child’s age and level of maturity, you might ask for his or her input on how to work out parenting time over the holidays. When co-parents have different religious beliefs, children may want to enjoy both types of traditions.
Be Prepared for Court as a Last Resort: It is possible that you will not resolve disputes over visitation during the holiday season, so you may need to get the court involved to decide. A judge will consider the factors that apply to the child’s best interests, which means you risk a decision that goes against your wishes. While you might still reach a compromise through your lawyer’s negotiation skills, be prepared to litigate if you remain steadfast on your wishes for parenting time this holiday season.
A Chicago Visitation and Parenting Time Attorney Can Assist with Holiday Planning
If you are facing issues regarding religious beliefs and parenting time, please contact Michael C. Craven to learn more about your rights and options. You can schedule a consultation at our office in Chicago, IL by calling (312) 621-5234 or checking out our website.
