Children During Divorce
Summer is a common time to tell children about a decision to split from a spouse or start divorce proceedings. It makes sense since kids have the entire summer to process the information without it getting in the way of completing schoolwork or clouding social interactions. However, now that kids have headed back to school it may be time to check in and see how they are doing.
Going back to school may reopen some of the wounds the summer helped to heal when it comes to divorce. Having to let teachers know about the situation, or discussing it with friends may cause stress and anxiety.
Additionally, if a child is now living in two different homes, remembering to bring books, homework, their favorite shirt, and more from home to home can be a challenge, and bring on a lot of worries.
The Huffington Post interviewed Dr. Mark Banschick for ideas on how to prepare both children and teachers for this difficult transition. There are many good ideas in this article that could really help. Click here to check them out.
Some of my favorites include:
- Working out a schedule with your ex so there is never confusion or anxiety about where your child is sleeping or spending their time.
- Taking the time to really talk to your child about what’s coming up, and if they have any worries or concerns.
- Making sure to monitor grades in case there is a steep drop at the beginning of this school year. Work with teachers to keep a constant watch on the situation.
Anything you can do to help make the transition easier for your child is worth learning about. Remember, it’s not just about the face your child may be putting on, but it’s how they are doing in school.
Michael C. Craven is a well-known divorce attorney in Chicago, CPA and a partner of the law firm Beermann Pritikin Mirabelli Swerdlove LLP. (Formerly of Beermann, now a Partner at Harrison LLP) located in the Chicago area. He is highly respected among other divorce attorneys, judges and his clients. He also holds a Master of Tax Law Degree (LLM). For more information about his services, contact Michael at mcraven@harrisonheld.com or at Divorce Lawyers Chicago
