Dealing-with-Divorce
My last post included different ideas to start moving your life forward during or after your divorce. Life as you have known it has changed – maybe for the better. Still, it’s easy for your world to become pretty narrow when you have the stress of divorce on your shoulders. Here is the second part of my article on how to ease back into your life and establish new connections and beginnings.
- Sleep. Even sleep may not be easy – but you need it. Limit any type of electronics an hour before bed. Put the laptop away. No emails. No texting. No TV. Put yourself in a technology time-out.
- Create. Your new life. Make a goal board. Starting over can provide new opportunities. Visualize your future.
- Don’t speak badly about your spouse. Okay. A little – but only to your best friend and therapist or write it in your journal. You spouse may be awful. But no one wants to hear it and in the end – it won’t make you feel any better to say it. Your time is better spent exercising or speaking positively about the good things in your life. If you have children – your spouse is part of them and they will feel terrible if they hear it. Keep adult conversations away from your kids. Your job is to protect them from this type of negativity – not take steps to expose them to it. You may say something out of anger and forget about it – but they won’t.
- Forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Whether it was choosing the wrong spouse or not investing in the marriage. Learn from it – and then move forward.
- Focus on the good in your life – every day is a gift. Gain perspective. As bad as your situation may be or feel – there are probably millions of people in this world that would trade problems with you. Live. Breathe. And if you can – laugh.
There is life after divorce – and you don’t have to wait until the papers are signed to start taking care of yourself and building your future – whether it is walking around the block, using social media, or traveling around the world. Opportunities await you.
Michael C. Craven is a well-known divorce attorney in Chicago, CPA and a partner of the law firm, Beermann Pritikin Mirabelli Swerdlove LLP. (Formerly of Beermann, now a Partner at Harrison LLP) located in the Chicago area. He is highly respected among other divorce attorneys, judges and his clients. He also holds a Master of Tax Law Degree (LLM). For more information about his services, contact Michael at mcraven@harrisonheld.com or at Divorce Lawyers Chicago
