Lack of Communication Can Trigger Divorce
I have been a Chicago divorce attorney for many years now. In my time, I have counseled a sea of both divorced spouses, as well as, spouses contemplating a divorce. The vast majority of these parties, at some point, come to focus on the main reasons for why they are even considering, or going through, a divorce. Finances and infidelity have traditionally been at the top of the list.
The truth of the matter, however, is that there are a host of factors that can lead to a divorce. Granted, some factors recur often enough that they get labeled as “common” divorce triggers. But, sometimes the “less common” are almost more important than the “most common” in understanding complex topics that arise.
What are the Less Common Divorce Triggers?
There is definitely not a top ten list when it comes to less common divorce triggers. Divorce cases differ depending upon the people and facts involved. Nevertheless, some generalities can be made when it comes to the less obvious divorce causes. Some of the less obvious causes for a divorce include:
- Infertility
- Personality differences
- Differing expectations about household tasks
- Having children with special needs
- Remodeling a house
In addition, a less commonly discussed reason for a divorce is lack of attention. Many parties in the midst of the divorce process often look back on their marriage and highlight ways they could have acted differently for their marriage to have worked. For example, a party to a divorce proceeding might say that he/she could have communicated better, taken better care of their children, or even been present more often.
All of this can be loosely labeled as a lack of attention on the part of one, or both, spouses. A marriage requires work and attention. Many marriages fail because work is not expended and/or attention is not given. Many parties are hesitant to admit that they could have been more attentive in their marriage. As a result, attentiveness tends to get overlooked when it comes to divorce triggers.
One Size Does Not Fit All
As mentioned above, divorce cases differ. There is not one typical case that fits every person going through the divorce process. Facts differ and people differ. As a result, the nature of every case differs.
In all of my years as an Illinois family law lawyer, I have come to understand this concept all too well. The concept is readily apparent when it comes to marriages ending. While some divorce triggers happen more than others, triggers can come in many different packages. If you are contemplating a divorce and have questions, please never hesitate to contact me with any questions.
